Life is hard

Life is hard.

If you want to achieve something, you have to strive for it, and keep striving until and after it has been completed.

You have to think about it all the time, or it should at least be one of those things that buzz in your mind every now and then and nudge you to do something about them.

You are probably going to fail a few times. You are going to encounter obstacles. You will lose the courage to keep going.

You need to have a plan.

Life will just keep on throwing you here and there, like you throw an octopus. You won’t always be able to keep your course, and when you land somewhere, perhaps you won’t be given enough time to make a home before you are picked up again.

So, some things will come at you whatever you do, maybe you can control them – maybe you can’t. And some things will come at you as a result of your actions. You should be able to control those, as they are of your own making. You are responsible for their existence. Disregard every excuse and fake problem now, because you have to be ready for when the real stuff lands in you lap.

All of this stuff will keep altering the course you have planned, and you will keep making changes, consciously or not.

You have to wake up every day with a purpose in mind.

Every morning you should get up and immediately know what are your goals for today, for tomorrow, for the next 5, 10, 20, 30 years. Time won’t stop, won’t slow down, won’t wait for anything.

Perhaps you would really like to live in Spain for a few years in your 30s or in your 60s. You may feel the need to get your own home by next year, or you could be really focused on retiring early in your 40s. Or maybe you want to earn some money by working in the sector you are currently in, and then move to some better place and open your own business there.

The meaning of your life is what you decide it is.

You are burdened with your own life. You alone. What you create, what you make of yourself is up to you.

Other people are going to see what you are building in your lifetime. Perhaps it is beatiful, and/or stable. Perhaps it is mainstream, traditional, inspirational or radical.

But people are going to see it anyways. And they are going to judge it. Some will disregard it, some will like it, others will be inspired by it, others will see and note your good or bad ideas and implementations.

Say, a regular guy from your school has moved to Switzerland and is living up in the Alps. Life is expensive, he is not making a fortune, but he is doing what he loves and has found happiness. This guy has managed to shape his own meaning. He has decided to cut the littlest piece of this planet to call his own, and inside that he is completely free and at peace. Of course, he too is going to have difficulties, but most of them will be a result of his own decisions and actions, so he will be ready for them.

Every person is different.

We all want, think and act and feel in different ways.

You should never say that someone is thinking/acting/feeling wrongly.

If you know of more effective ways then show them and teach them. But if your ways are not objectively better, then you should remain quiet.

Always try to teach in the simplest form you can. Dumb it all down, build a strong base and then add more knowledge on top of it. Or set the vertical columns and then fill in the gaps with bricks. Try to keep your thoughts organized and know the voids of knowledge you have.

If you have succeeded or not, only time will tell. What you have taught/given that person is theirs now, and not yours.

Maybe they got it right, maybe they got some parts wrong. Maybe they will try to teach it too, maybe they will forget all about it. You are responsible for what they now hold, but it does not belong to you anymore. And you have to make peace with that.